Dr. Grace Gabe
Grace Gabe, M.D. graduated from Radcliffe College in 1955 and went on to Boston University Medical School where she was elected to the Alpha Omega Alpha Honor Medical Society and earned her medical degree in 1959.
After a medical internship, she was appointed the first female surgical resident at the Beth Israel Hospital in Boston. From 1961 to 1963, she served as Resident in Psychiatry at Albert Einstein Medical School. From 1963 to 1964, she served as Resident in Psychiatry at St. Elizabeth's Hospital in Washington, D.C., winning the William Allison White award for her work on the history of the insanity defense in the United States.
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"This is an outstanding book. It tackles the delicate issues surrounding the many varieties of adult step families with wisdom and wit.... It is enlivened by intelligence, a sense of humor, and is vastly above the level of most self help books. I couldn't put it down."
Dr. S. M. Siler, Brookline, MA
Dr. Gabe is Board Certified in Psychiatry by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. In private practice in Washington, D.C. from 1964 to 1992, Dr. Gabe specialized in child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry with a special interest in the biological treatment of mood disorders. She was appointed to numerous positions such as Fellow in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (Children's Hospital, Washington, D.C) and Resident in Neurology (George Washington Medical School). She was Director of the Child and Adolescent Community Mental Health Center (Georgetown University Medical School) where she directed a staff of 80 psychologists, psychiatrists, teachers, and social workers. She also served as Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Georgetown Medical School and George Washington University Medical School. Her clinical research on Attention Deficit Disorder and Childhood Psychosis was published in academic medical research journals such as the American Journal of Psychiatry and the Journal of Biological Science. Among her honors she was elected Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association.
“Step Wars can help happy second marriages stay that way! It will help to anticipate, understand and negotiate the pitfalls of dealing with adult step children. This book offers sound advice about how parents in general should talk about finances with their grown children. I predict a wide and grateful audience.”
Dr. Judith Rapoport
National Institute of Health, Washington DC
In 1992, Dr. Gabe relocated to Los Angeles. Her lifelong interest in psychological development led to researching and writing about couples who reunite after many years of separation, which became a cover story for Psychology Today and was featured on national TV. Dr. Gabe coauthored STEP WARS: Overcoming the Perils and Making Peace within Adult Stepfamilies (St. Martin's Press, April 2004), which unravels and solves the conflicts resulting from later-in-life remarriage, when adult children suddenly find themselves as “stepchildren.”
A dedicated violinist, Dr. Gabe takes her violin everywhere. She lives in Santa Monica, California with her husband Warren Bennis
Step Wars
When a divorced or widowed parent remarries, no one is really prepared for what lies ahead--not the parent, not the spouse, not the adult children. The first shock is usually the stark contrast between the joy of the older bride and groom and the response of virtually everyone else in both their families. There's a big difference between them. The parents choose to be married. They are volunteers. The adult children are being drafted; they didn't choose this new arrangement. It is being imposed upon them.
When a divorced or widowed parent remarries, no one is really prepared for what lies ahead--not the parent, not the spouse, not the adult children. The first shock is usually the stark contrast between the joy of the older bride and groom and the response of virtually everyone else in both their families. There's a big difference between them. The parents choose to be married. They are volunteers. The adult children are being drafted; they didn't choose this new arrangement. It is being imposed upon them.
The couple usually see their marriage as a great unexpected gift and a last chance to savor love. The adult children rarely share their parent's unalloyed pleasure. They often resist the change they know the marriage will bring. And they may intensely resent being expected to act enthusiastic about it.
In virtually every adult stepfamily we studied, problems develop when these changes occur. No one is prepared for it. There are no guidelines. Each family struggles on its own. There can be a long struggle culminating in a Step War unless all the parties have the requisite tools to work out the issues that inevitably arise.
Within each of these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines and techniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences, unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustrate these ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives.
Whether you have been in an adult stepfamily for some time or are about to become part of one, we have written a book to show you ways to navigate this difficult terrain: "Step Wars: Overcoming the Perils and making Peace in Adult Stepfamilies" by Grace Gabe, M.D. and Jean Lipman-Blumen, PhD. (St. Martins Press 2004)
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