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Dr. Scott Haltzman

Author of "Secrets of Happily Married Men"

Scott Haltzman, M.D., is board certified in Psychiatry and is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. He is a graduate of Brown University class of 1982, and received his medical degree from the Brown Medical School in 1985. He completed his psychiatric training and chief residency at Yale University, and then moved back to Rhode Island with his wife and children. He is currently a Clinical Assistant Professor at Brown University Department of Psychiatry and Human Behavior and the Medical Director of NRI Community Services in Woonsocket, Rhode Island.

"'MEN ARE SUCH JERKS!' How many times have you heard that, sometimes even from other men? Scott Haltzman doesn't think we're all jerks. In an unusually wise and frequently funny book, he urges us to use the skills that make us successful in work and sports to become, in effect, world-class husbands who, in return for our efforts, have a much improved chance of being appreciated, maybe even cherished, by our wives."


Rick Carson

Dr. Haltzman has gained international recognition for his work in support of marriage and committed relationships. He has appeared on the Today Show, 20/20, Good Morning America, and in TIME Magazine, Glamour, Redbook, Parent's Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, New York Times, Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune and local and national radio, TV and print.

“I get very positive responses from individuals and couples who use Haltzman's very readable book. His approach of using the skills men already possess to enhance their relationship hits the right cord for the guys. The practical approaches that he recommends provide direction that couples really understand and implement.”
Dr. Don Ferguson
Psychologist and Marriage Therapist

Dr. Haltzman is a member of the "Love Network" of Redbook magazine, and is an editorial consultant of Best Life. He co-authored the chapter, "Men, Marriage and Divorce" in the American Psychiatric Press book: Men and Mental Health. He is an internationally recognized speaker, presenting at the Annual Smart Marriages conference and at the annual meeting of the American Psychiatric Association. In 2007, he was honored by the Women's Resource Center of Newport & Bristol Counties (Rhode Island) as one of 19 "Men who Make a Difference."

Dr. Haltzman is the founder and editor of DrScott.com and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men and The Secrets of Happily Married Women. He is currently working on his third book, also with co-author Theresa Foy DiGeronimo, called The Secrets of Happy Families. You can contribute your own secrets by taking the “Happy Family Survey” at DrScott.com.


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Secrets of Happily Married Men

Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The breakup and divorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couples therapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace, many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creeps who'd better change fast or else.

But this new book is totally different, a whole different way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view, men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment.

Dr. Scott Haltzman, Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University, and founder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com, has devised a proven method for improving relationships, based on a man's special and unique skills, strengths, powers—as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem-solver, partner, husband, and father. Men are different, Dr. Haltzman says. They don't approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do—and viva la difference.

Dr.Haltzman therefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which men have revealed in confidential correspondence to his highly successful website, including:

    The First Way: Make Your Marriage Your Job
    The Second Way: Know Your Wife
    The Third Way: Be Home Now
    The Fourth Way: Expect Conflict and Deal With It
    The Fifth Way: Learn to Listen
    The Sixth Way: Aim to Please
    The Seventh Way: Understand the Truth About Sex
    The Eighth Way: Introduce Yourself

    and finally, Celebrate Your Love.
Within each of these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines and techniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences, unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustrate these ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives.

For a lasting commitment, a continuing guide to solving inevitable problems and bumps in the road, for more fun, better sex, genuine intimacy, and a life-long partnership—this dynamic new author shows the way in a manner that finally includes an authentic male perspective.


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